• Dating and Sex After Trauma Webinar on May 22

Dating and Sex After Trauma Webinar on May 22

  • May 9th, 2018

Reclaim your right to pleasure in your body and connection in your relationships.
Adult industry mental health professional Traci Medeiros-Bagan will be presenting a webinar on May 22nd on “Dating and Sex After Trauma” at Everyday Feminism.

“In touch with the erotic, I become less willing to accept powerlessness, or those other supplied states of being which are not native to me, such as resignation, despair, self-effacement, depression, self-denial.” – Audre Lorde, Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power, Sister Outsider

Do you struggle to build and create nurturing relationships, or struggle to trust them once they’re established? Has it ever been hard to stay present during sex or are there things your lover does that incite terror or rage for seemingly […]

  • Being transgender in today’s America

Being transgender in today’s America

  • January 12th, 2018

Looking back at 2017 it’s difficult to see it as anything but a disastrous year for the transgender community, and to feel a great deal of trepidation about what 2018 has in store for us. As a community we certainly faced many challenges last year and it’s easy to get caught up in all the negativity and feel a sense of hopeless or frustration seeing so much of what we gained under previous administrations being undone by Trump, but there is reason to be hopeful.

The election last November was a historic day for the transgender community as seven openly transgender candidates won elections across the nation, winning seats on school boards, city councils, and in a state house. Voter […]

  • Transgender Day of Remembrance 2017

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2017

  • November 20th, 2017

Today we pause to remember and honor those in the trans community who were killed this past year due to anti-transgender violence and bigotry. In 2017, there have been 25 documented cases of transgender people killed around the world. The Transgender Day of Remembrance (also known as TDoR) was started back in 1999 by transgender advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith to honor the memory of Rita Hester, a trans woman who was killed during the prior year. It has since become an important event participated by the LGBTQ+ community and its allies.

“The Transgender Day of Remembrance seeks to highlight the losses we face due to anti-transgender bigotry and violence. I am no stranger to the need to fight for our rights, […]

  • Historic election wins for transgender candidates.

Historic election wins for transgender candidates.

  • November 8th, 2017

Yesterday proved to be a historic day for the transgender community as five openly transgender candidates won elections in Virginia, Minnesota, California, New Hampshire, and Pennsylvania, winning seats on school boards, on city councils, and in a state house. Voter turnout was strong and the nation sent a clear and loud message that they are not satisfied with the status quo and that things need to change. Democrats were the big winners when the votes were counted, and the LGBT community was the biggest winner of all, showing that the Trump Administration’s agenda of hate and discrimination is not working and is not endorsed by a growing number of Americans.

Democrat Danica Roem became the first openly transgender candidate to […]

  • The legacy of Hugh Hefner and Playboy

The legacy of Hugh Hefner and Playboy

  • October 26th, 2017

We all recognize Hugh Hefner with his trademark silk smoking jacket and pipe, always accompanied by beautiful Playboy bunnies draped over each arm. He became the persona of Playboy, both the magazine and the lifestyle, living at his infamous Playboy Mansion with outrageous parties and socializing with the rich and famous. But there was more to Hefner than the superficial trappings of success. Playboy was founded at a time when the prevailing attitude of American society was that a woman’s place was in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant. Hefner changed that with his magazine which empowered woman and gave a voice to sexuality, and was at the forefront of the sexual revolution. Playboy helped break down sexual barriers and […]

  • Mass-shootings and the dehumanizing of America

Mass-shootings and the dehumanizing of America

  • October 3rd, 2017

It’s difficult to comprehend the horror of Sunday night’s tragic mass shooting in Las Vegas where 59 people were killed and 527 were injured. But what makes this tragedy even more heartbreaking is the way America has reacted to it, because it clearly shows that we as a nation have lost our humanity. We have lost the ability to see things and react from the standpoint of just being human.

It’s sad and discouraging that so much of how people reacted to this tragedy was framed within political views, or racial, or religious. The Democrats blame the lack of stricter gun control, while the Republicans go with their usual response about the Second Amendment right to bear arms. There are […]

  • Family

Family

  • September 15th, 2017

There are various definitions of the word family; most often it refers to a group consisting of parents and children living together in a household related to one another by blood or marriage. There are other definitions as well, such as a group of people united in criminal activity, like the Mafia, or a taxonomic rank in the classification of organisms between genus and order. But there is another definition of family that can be just as meaningful as the other definitions: a group of objects united by a significant shared characteristic.

For many in the transgender community the simple fact that we’re trans brings us together and into a new family because of the shared experiences and the bonds […]

  • It’s Time To Abolish The Trans Panic Legal Defense

It’s Time To Abolish The Trans Panic Legal Defense

  • September 1st, 2017

Last week Illinois Governor Bruce Rauner signed into law a bill banning the “gay panic” and “trans panic” defense in murder cases, making Illinois the second state to do so, after California become the first state to officially ban the defense in 2014. The law prevents people in those states from claiming that the murder victim was gay or bisexual and made a sexual advance that caused them to react violently, or that the victim’s gender identity caused them to react violently. This is a defense tactic which specifically targets members of the LGBT community and is based on stereotypes and ignorance and fear. Defendants in murder cases have sometimes been able to argue their way to a lesser […]

  • Grooby Goes to Seattle: Vlog 002

Grooby Goes to Seattle: Vlog 002

  • August 31st, 2017

To celebrate the rebrand of GroobyGirls.com, our Marketing Director Kristel Penn visited the famous gum wall in Seattle to leave our mark!

  • Ya Gotta Have Style!

Ya Gotta Have Style!

  • August 24th, 2017

Being transgender is no easy task; there is a lot to learn and it’s a steep learning curve. When we transition we are literally reinventing ourselves from the ground up; we have to learn things on the go that cis-people have had their entire lives to learn and understand. Not only do we have to learn how to be comfortable with ourselves and figure out our place in life, we also have to deal with practical issues such as how to present as our authentic gender. Our appearance is one of the things we focus on, especially early in our transition, because the reality is that how we look plays a large role in how we are accepted; in […]

  • Are “you guys” being overly sensitive?

Are “you guys” being overly sensitive?

We in the transgender community have a lot of things to be concerned about in these troubling times. Our state and federal governments continue to attempt passage of legislation which takes away our rights and makes it legal to discriminate against us. Bathroom bills continue to be proposed in state after state. Federal protections for transgender youth have been done away with, leaving them more vulnerable and at even greater risk of bullying. Transgender murders and suicides continue at a horrendous rate. Trans people still have high rates of unemployment and poverty. We have a president who is systematically taking away our rights, such as declaring he will reinstate the ban on trans people serving openly in the military, […]

  • Trump trans ban: A slap in the face to trans community

Trump trans ban: A slap in the face to trans community

I woke this morning to the news that Trump will reinstate the ban against transgender Americans being allowed to serve openly in the military. The ban had been lifted under President Obama but the plan to allow trans people to serve openly was still under review, and it was an ominous sign when Defense Secretary James Mattis announced last month that he was delaying enactment of the plan.

Trump made the following statement in three tweets this morning: “After consultation with my Generals and military experts, please be advised that the United States Government will not accept or allow Transgender individuals to serve in any capacity in the U.S. Military. Our military must be focused on decisive and overwhelming victory […]

  • Attack my integrity? A shill for Grooby? Think again.

Attack my integrity? A shill for Grooby? Think again.

  • July 19th, 2017

I had intended to write about Caitlyn Jenner’s possible run for the Senate in California, but after recent events on social media I felt the need to clarify a few things about this column and what I write.

Last week I wrote a column about Trans Identity and the issues we face in our own community because some choose to judge and try to exclude certain people who they feel are not really trans or “not trans enough” which has led to a lot of bickering and divisiveness within our community. After logging onto Facebook yesterday and reading yet another diatribe against cross-dresser, I made the following post:

“Some trans women need to take a long, hard look at themselves because […]

  • Q&A Quickies with the beautiful Casey Kisses!

Q&A Quickies with the beautiful Casey Kisses!

This week’s edition of Q&A Quickies features the beautiful Casey Kisses! Casey is the 2017 Transgender Erotica Awards winner for Stroker of the Year, sponsored by Shemale Strokers, and she is always a fan favorite! When Casey isn’t busy shooting scenes she can be found on Chaturbate where she is always in demand!

And stay tuned for a full-length interview of Casey coming soon! And based on some of her answers to these questions it’s going to be a fun interview!

Bacon cheeseburger or tofu burger?

CK:  Bacon cheeseburger, with extra bacon

Favorite sex partner: male, female, or trans?

CK:  Male

What songs are on your playlist right now?

CK:  Deceptacon, Short Skirt Long Jacket, Are You Gunna be my Girl

Favorite scene you’ve shot?

CK:  My first […]

  • Trans Identity: Who’s Who, And What Does It Matter

Trans Identity: Who’s Who, And What Does It Matter

  • July 6th, 2017

NOTE: These are my own views and I certainly don’t expect everyone to agree with them, or imply that my views are the only ones which are correct. Everyone has their own opinions and who is to say one person’s opinion is better or more correct than anyone else’s. This is a topic which I’ve been thinking about for a while and has come up in several interviews and been a very hot topic on social media, so this is my attempt to make sense of a confusing and troubling issue.

One of the biggest issues we in the trans community face is being labeled: a “guy in a dress,” a “freak,” a “pervert.” We have fought long and hard […]

  • Dave Naz’s Book, “Identity” to be Released on July 11

Dave Naz’s Book, “Identity” to be Released on July 11

  • July 3rd, 2017

Los Angeles, CA – A stunning and provocative book of photos, IDENTITY is the latest exploration of gender identity expression from celebrated photographer and filmmaker Dave Naz.

In Identity, Naz explores the gender spectrum by turning his camera on subjects who are genderqueer, transgender, intersex, pangender, and every shade in between. Helping to add to the current global discussion on the structured nature of gender identity, Identity is an eye-opening look at people who don’t fit neatly into a convenient box. And it contains powerful essays written by some of the book’s subjects.

Essays by: Riley Kilo, Chelsea Poe, Jane Starr, Andre Shakti, Matty Boi, Kelli Lox, Kristel Penn, Kwesi, Michelle Austin

Buy a signed copy / Amazon

  • The Power of Pride: Portland Pride 2017

The Power of Pride: Portland Pride 2017

Portland is one of the most welcoming and accepting cities in the Pacific Northwest, if not the country. Portlanders are known for their friendliness and not being judgmental. And we’re not afraid to speak up and make our voices heard when we don’t agree with something, as shown by the many anti-Trump rallies in the past months. Unfortunately, Portland is not immune from hate and violence, as shown by the recent murders of two men who came to the defense of two girls who were the target of racial slurs aboard a MAX train. But as a trans woman Portland is one of the places I feel most safe, and where I don’t have to fear being trans or […]

  • OC Pride Scheduled Events Every Day this Week!

OC Pride Scheduled Events Every Day this Week!

  • June 20th, 2017

OC Pride invite’s you to the Orange County ‘As One’ LGBT Pride Parade & Festival on Saturday, June 24th 2017!

Come and CELEBRATE the ACCOMPLISHMENTS, DREAMS, LOVE, and HOPE of the LGBT community as we take over the streets and expand with tons of great surprises in-store!!! This year we will be shutting down both 3rd and 4th street between French and Main; successfully doubling the size of the festival! Join us as we kick-off the week long celebration with the Official OC “As One” Pride Week starting on Monday, June 19th with nightly PRIDE events all across Orange County!

The Official OC “As One” Pride Week

MONDAY……….(June 19): Bowling Night at Bowlmor Lanes – OC Pride Week
TUESDAY………(June 20): Ms. OC Pride’s […]

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